We have been in the Pacific Northwest for almost 2 years now and I have begun to practice a shift in perspective in lieu of the serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
To grow in consciousness and to awaken means to be open to look at all this...and to be willing to say, "yes, this is mine to do...yes, this is shift-able."
I sat down this morning and wrote out what is mine to do...all the little nuances that annoy me because I am annoyed that they annoy me. I made a running list of anything that would give any possibility for personality to complain, judge or criticize. That is, what I know does not serve me and if I don't take a closer look, I may be completely out of integrity.
For instance, a few would include: someone bumping into me, spilling coffee right out of my hands and not having the courtesy to saying "pardon me!" (and be genuinely apologetic ~ The nerve!), mud being tracked in the house (especially after the house has just been cleaned)...and my all time favorite, what I could have, should have, would have said in a situation that could have, would have, should have made something better.
It is not to say that I am dis-allowing myself to be human. But rather, I'd like to get to a point where I can leave out the commentary - the internal voice that is constantly on.
I 'd like to get to a point where it doesn't bother me that coffee is every where and someone doesn't apologize. I don't need to call him a jerk, or have a conversation about how un-awaken this person is, and how rude that was, etc. Just that someone bumped into me and I spilled my coffee (where ever it nay go) and I had a reaction...and now, I get cleaned up. End of story.
I'd like to get to a point where I see mud in the house for what it is: mud in the house and just clean it up. NO "who did this?!" No "I'm always that one that gets to clean it up, etc" Or perhaps, maybe I have these thoughts as understandable reactions, but after the initial reaction, I simply clean it up. It doesn't serve me to complain but to leave me in a loop of dialogue that gets no where - the dialogue of complaint doesn't make me feel good...there is no upside for me here.
So, let me begin again - forgive work is key to release...as I forgive, I release myself. I release my attachments and expectations for myself. With breath and mind, I surrender to the power of Spirit ever present within. These are mine to purify and cleanse, no one else can do it for me. I am better than the voice of complaint, criticism and judgement - aren't we all? Isn't the light within so much bigger than this reaction to occurrences in life?
My practice with these is to first hold them in love and be grateful for how they have served me in the past. It is now time to release them - to totally surrender them...especially my attachments to what I have no idea of how to transform (!). I shall put them on cards, and in The Silence, ask for possibility / shift / light. I find that language sometimes restricts creativity as it narrows down what is infinitely possible.
In anticipation for this years burning bowl, I plan to work on releasing these attachments thoroughly. For now, the blessing rain, the falling of leaves shall be reminders to help me purify all that no longer serves me, breaking the ancestral, karmic and cellular patterns hidden deep within, to make way for a new peace.
the soft sweet rain.
May it fall upon your spirit
so that all the little flowers may spring up,
and shed their sweetness on the air.
May the blessing of the great rains be on you,
may they beat upon your spirit
and wash it fair and clean,
and leave there many a shining pool
where the blue of heaven shines,
and sometimes a star.